Our first and last love is - self-love. Christian Bovee
When we're children, most of us are taught that loving others is good, but loving ourself is self-centered and selfish. Therefore, if we feel any love for ourself, this will be followed by feelings of guilt. So we push our normal and natural self-love aside to ease the pain of guilt. We are so lovable, yet we deny ourselves love. What an insult to our beautiful soul.
Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults. Les Brown
Perhaps you don't see yourself as lovable. After all, you've got all those faults and weaknesses. And if you believe that's who you are, then of course you would see yourself as unlovable. But those faults and weaknesses are not who you are. They're issues you're working on in this life, so you can love the beautiful creation you are and work on those issues at the same time. Aren't we all a work in progress? Lighten up, and give yourself some slack.
Imagine when you look in the mirror that the face looking back at you is someone you truly love. Just imagine. www.isha.com
Wow. Wouldn't that be wonderful! The first step is to forgive yourself your shortcomings and begin focusing on the beauty that is you. Your heart knows that beauty, but you have to be willing to listen and acknowledge its presence. Make a conscious effort to search for what there is in you that is lovable. If you've been used to only seeing the negative, this may be difficult at first. But keep at it. There's a saying: I must be somebody, 'cause God don't make no junk. Believe it. Turn away from negative messages in your head, and acknowledge the truth of your being.
You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence will make others happy. Author Unknown
If we are to love others, that love has to come from somewhere. You can't get water from an empty glass. But if you keep pouring water into the glass, it will overflow, and everyone will drink from it. No one need go thirsty when the glass is full. We were born of love, and we have an eternal supply within us, but we can't expect it to flow freely if we keep blocking it with guilt and fear. It is okay to love yourself first, and then allow it to spill over to others. Then watch the love come back to you multiplied, maybe not always from where you want to receive it, but it will come.
I wish you joy in loving your special self.