Everyone and everything around you is your teacher. Ken Keyes Jr
People come into our lives for a purpose. They come with love and support and/or to present us with an opportunity for growth. And there's a blessing in each one, for even a painful challenge is a blessing if we learn from it. Sometimes we don't see the blessing until we look back on the experience and realize we took something of value from it.
When I was working, I had a supervisor who made my life as miserable as he could, and I stayed stressed out. I told a friend about him, and she said, "He's probably one of the best life teachers you've ever had." Her comment rattled my brain, and I took a second look at this difficult person and my feelings toward him. I'd stayed so immersed in miserable feelings, I'd missed the value in this challenge. I began some inner soul-searching, as I call it, and realized how I could gain from the very irritation I dreaded every day. With a different perspective, I found strength and wisdom from this experience to pave a smoother way for myself in subsequent relationships.
No one makes you feel anything. It is how you react and respond that determines your emotions. Brian Tracy
Nobody says you have to like a person that's in your life, but you can learn to live around him or her for as long as you have to, and keep your sanity while you're at it. You can't change the other person, but why let someone else determine how you feel? You can take dominion over your own feelings, and learn something about yourself in the process.
Each person is a valuable part of our growth, so when someone is in your life, put your feelings on hold and ask what you can gain from the experience--patience, understanding, independence, self-worth, strength, compassion--whatever is yours to learn. Think to yourself, Welcome to my life. Let's see what we can learn from each other.
Sometimes people you believe to be your enemy really can be your greatest teachers if you give the relationships a chance on that basis. Over the years, once I learned to start out with the Welcome to my life statement, a few of my potential enemies became friends. And we learned together. Sure made life a lot easier.
I wish you happy encounters.