Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Just Walk Your Journey

It is only when we silent sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands on the doorsteps of our hearts. K.T. Long

I've been listening to interviews on the Healing With The Masters series, and one in particular by Marise Karlin reminded me of how hectic our lives are and how much we need to include quiet in each day. We rush from one problem to another, collecting mental and emotional junk on our way. We hang onto it somewhere inside and don't take time to clean it out and replace it with things like peace, harmony, joy, contentment and all the good stuff that makes life worthwhile. And we miss those precious moments that we let slip by.

Everything in the universe is energy. Each individual has a vibrational connection to the oneness of all, and we each connect into the whole. Our energies affect one another in a positive or negative way. Life is full of triggers that push our buttons and tend to move us into negative vibrations. Your boss yells at you, a store clerk is rude, someone doesn't understand you, being in the presence of someone in a bad mood. Difficult and/or painful situations are endless. And sometimes we respond in kind instead of choosing to respond in peace. What a cycle in which to live our life. The sad part is that we don't learn to live another way. Maybe we don't even know that's where we are.

We may be a part of the universal whole, but we can choose the kind of energy we want to receive or project in the universe. There is within each of us a Source of peace that transcends our human flesh, and we can learn to connect with this Source as needed. What a great sense of freedom when we're no longer at the mercy of someone else's trigger, or just from everyday stressors we all encounter.

Today, there are many ways available to learn relaxation techniques, and there are things you can do to bring harmony into your life. Embrace the healing power of music and nature to encourage wellbeing in your body, mind and spirit. Have you ever noticed how flowers and plants have a healing influence when a person's dealing with a health challenge? And how about smiling to activate healing chemicals in your brain.

Stop resisting and pushing at all that clutter and junk that crosses your path. Be quiet, take a deep breath, and reconnect with the Divine within. Then meet each challenge from a place of calm assertiveness. Practice inner quiet until you can assume a quiet mind at will. Maintain a serene heart. And just walk your journey.

I wish you a peaceful walk.


Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Air Fright

If anyone is anticipating flying somewhere, it might help to know what could, maybe, possibly, might happen to you. I've been flying for 50 years, and the flight I just took to Seattle is the first one I can label a nightmare. I'm a nice quiet person, but this last trip brought out the beast in me, and I'm surprised I wasn't put off the plane. Looking back, I suppose it's a good thing I wasn't put off, because an irate old lady being put off a plane should certainly have a camera rolling, and I don't think one was poised to shoot the scene.

A few years ago I stopped carrying a purse in addition to a carry-on bag (easier that way), and I learned the airlines minimum size requirement for a bag to put under the seat in front of me. Then I bought and carried a bag very much within those measurements that held my medications, my inhaler, food, money, credit cards and ID, a light blanket, kleenex and my crossword book and pen. Until my recent trip, everything worked without a hitch, so little did I suspect an onslaught was about to begin.

While I waited for my initial flight, an attendant put a "gate claim baggage" flyer on the handle of my carry-on case, and this told me right away they planned to confiscate my bag upon entering the plane. So I discretely removed the flyer, put it in my pocket and entered the plane with my best innocent old-lady smile. Got away with that one.

But changing planes in Houston was a different story. When I entered the plane, an attendant pounced on me and grabbed for my bag. "All of the overhead bins are full," she smirked. I grabbed back and said, "No. This goes under my seat."

Well, this started a tug-of-war between us that I eventually won, thinking that was the end of our encounter. Wrong. When they did their last check before take off, I knew that attendant wasn't through with me. She stopped by my seat, hands on her hips and threw out her heavy chest demanding my bag again. We went back and forth with my pleading and her demanding I surrender my bag. Then I exploded, and every time she opened her mouth, I put my foot in it with cuss words I'd kept in check for many years. The whole cabin gaped at the show they had not anticipated, but obviously enjoyed. The attendant smirked again and said, "I'll get my supervisor." And I blurted, "Yeah, why don't you **** just do that."

Next here came an attendant wearing a spiked hair do and a menacing look. She glared at me with a sickening grin and said, "If you need your medicine, we will get it from your bag in the overhead bin. (I thought the overhead bins were full) Then we can work together....can't we!"

With both feet on top of my bag I yelled, "No way. You will not have this bag." Both attendants straightened up, grunted big time and replied, "Well, if there's a problem, we will take it." And, harumph. They stomped away. Then I cried from pure stress, glad the whole mess had ended.

By the way, the person sitting next to me had stuff under the seat in front of her consisting of a dog in a carrier, a giant tote bag, a heavy sweater and an Ipod, with no room for her feet, while my feet sat comfortably on either side of my bag.

I've really been running on about this, but I just wanted to warn you to be prepared for surprises you may not anticipate on your next airline trip. Some attendants are ruthless.

I wish you only harmonious flights


Wednesday, September 14, 2011

The People In Your Life

Life is accepting what is and working from that. Gloria Naylor

I just returned from Seattle visiting my son and his family. Every year or two I visit them and my daughter's family in Dallas. Not enough time to spend with people I love. Each trip reminds me again of how distant families and friends are today. In earlier times, life wasn't like that. People stayed close and spent their whole lives together sharing all those little tender moments that really aren't little. They're what life is about, and their importance can't be measured. I know life changes, but did that have to change too? Yeah, I guess it did.

Separation of family and friends is a normal way of life now. And maybe that's okay for those who've never known a different way. But I wonder if sometimes they wish friends and family were not so scattered so they could drop in for coffee, ride in a friend's new car, visit when a child is sick, help a mother walk when she gets old, find joy at a baptism or cry together at a funeral, or get frequent hugs from those they love. Companionship feeds our soul and is absolutely necessary for us to flourish.

It's been said that we don't miss what we've never had, and maybe that's true. But for some of us who remember, we have to adjust and find new people in our lives and feel grateful for those who are still near us to fill our need for community, our need to express love in person. That's not to say there aren't people in our lives who grate on our nerves, and maybe we'd like a little distance from them, but those are the ones who help us grow the most. So we need people like that too.

Every single thing changes, and is changing always in this world. Yet, with the same light the moon goes on shining. Saigyo

I missed watching my grandchildren grow up, and I've missed many of the day-to-day encounters with my children and some of my friends but, oh, how I treasure the memories of times we were together. Maybe I appreciate them all the more because those times were infrequent. I would rather have had things different, but I believe there's good in everything, and the situation has taught me to appreciate what I might have taken for granted otherwise.

We're all on our own journey, and it's wonderful to travel together, but I guess each of us has to take our own route. So grab on to every minute you have with someone you love, and put it somewhere in your heart for safekeeping. Life isn't always what we want, but it can be a blessing when we make it so.

Love them here or there.


Monday, September 5, 2011


More than anything else, I believe it's our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, that determine our destiny. Anthony Robbins

Look around at your life. What you see reflects your past decisions, thus the life you've created for yourself. Are you happy with what you see, or would you like to change something? It's going to change anyway--nothing stands still--but the quality depends upon the method you use for making decisions. Stuff happens, and you can't control everything, but for a better tomorrow, it's wise to look at what you're doing today.

Since we live our lives from the inside out, it helps to explore what's going on inside and the actions we take as a result. Are you impulsive or a worrier? Do you go on automatic and end up in regret? Do you have unfulfilled dreams because you're scared to reach out and take a chance? How would you rate yourself as a decision maker?

Make decisions from the heart, and use your head to make it work out. Sir Girad

My decisions brought much regret in my life until I learned from one magnificent success. At age 47, against advice from family, I returned to school to work in the mental health field. I had no savings, no money for school, and I had to quit my job and move to another city. Looking back I can't believe I was so brave, but friends helped me in the other city, and I went for it. I got a job, a school loan, my own apartment, and excelled in school. And I began a new life. That's when I learned something about making wise decisions. Since then, I also learned to forgive myself for the times I forgot to be wise and goofed up.

We're faced with thousands of decisions in our life, but whether we have a major or minor one, the process is the same.
1. Keep your needs and wants clear. Is it a need or a want, and what are you willing to pay for it?
2. Be patient and gather all the information you can about the issue. What will it take to manifest? What is the best direction for you to take? What resources will you need.?
3. Never make a decision based on fear. What if I make a mistake? What if I can't make it happen? Etc. Just turn your fear to healthy caution.
4. Look inside for guidance. What is your heart telling you?
5. Be enthusiastic about the potential outcome. Stay committed, but flexible.
6. When ready, take action, and be prepared to accept the outcome. And know you did your best--no matter what.

We're all learning, so don't look for perfection. Learning just makes life easier. Make it fun along the way.