Thursday, December 29, 2011


Our intention creates our reality. Wayne Dyer

Hello. Here we are with a brand new beginning again. We get one at this time each year. It's like opening a package, not knowing what's inside. Only now we get to decide what we want in the package, and we get to make it so. Is there something you wanted last year and didn't get? Well, how about this year? Dreams really can come true when we make them real with intention.

A good intention clothes itself with power. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Bringing what you want into your life involves more than just wanting something. First comes the idea. Then comes intention, the power that supports what you want to have, do, or be. Getting into the habit of setting intentions promotes good results. It helps clarify your desire and it motivates your efforts to acquire it.

Once you intend to have, do, or be something, set a course to get there:
1. First go within and ask for guidance. And listen as you go along.
2. Be open to change, for in some way you will be changed this year. We all are. But you can decide what you want to change.
3. Be clear about what you want and why you want it. Will it enhance your life? Will it involve others in any way? How? Use inner reflection and state your purpose.
4. Examine your inner feelings and work on anything that needs attention.
A. Do you have any defeating habits? Worry, pessimism, procrastination?
B. Do you feel worthy? Unworthy?
C. Are there any old wounds that need healing?
D. Any past mistakes that may interfere with the present?
E. Is there anything you need to forgive in others or yourself?
5. Resolve what issues you can, and love all that is you.
6. Set in motion whatever needs to be done in the outer and move toward your goal. And don't listen to inner critics while you're at it.
7. Look for light in everything.
8. Trust your inner Voice, and trust yourself. You have all you need for success.
9. Imagine what you want as already manifest in your life. And hang onto that image with gratitude.

Wow! That seems like a lot to do to get what you want this year. But once you express your intention, the rest will follow. You have the power to bring much good into your life. It's worth the effort. And each time gets easier. Make this your year.

Happy new year. Happy new you.


Friday, December 23, 2011

The Magic Time

We need a renaissance of wonder. We need to renew, in our hearts and in our souls, the deathless dream, the eternal poetry, the perennial sense that life is miracle and magic. E. Merrill Root.

Sorry I'm late this week, but last week's injury from a fall on my kitchen floor put a stop to all of my plans. It took my focus away from outer activities and forced me to go within. There was no other place to go. And the pain in my bruised body directed me to explore who and what I am and how I view life and it's challenges. There are times when we need to go within and find meaning we may be missing with our busy minds. I remembered past holidays like the present one...what I did then, how I felt and what they meant to me. And the same thought kept coming back--the same profound realization I have every year during this beautiful holiday season. This is a time of renewal, reawakening, rebirth--and releasing of the old invites this Newness of Life.

You might ask yourself, as I have done this week, what do you want to release from your life? What do you want to renew or reawaken? -- a talent, a sense of peace, an unfulfilled dream? Listen to the Voice within that always leads you to greater awareness of truth in your life, greater expression of who you are. Embrace the song in your heart that wants to be heard, and allow rebirth to unfold in the joy of the season. You are more than you know, and now is a time to express the magic that is you.

This is a time for each of us to let our light shine as a star in the heavens, and be who we are meant to be.

I wish you the joy of reawakening love and light in your life.


Thursday, December 15, 2011


Each morning when we wake up, we think about what we have planned for that day. It's usually pretty routine and works out mostly as planned. But sometimes a storm hits and all plans are out the window. Then we have to make a 180 degree turn and regroup everything. There are all kinds of ways to meet such a day. How would react to one like this?

A few days ago, I had an opportunity to answer that question for myself, and I've been going through just about every reaction since the catastrophe. I had my list all made--2 appointments, shopping, the post office, and ingredients to make peanut butter candy for my writer's group party. After breakfast, I picked up my empty cereal bowl and headed for the kitchen. But I didn't see the pair of shoes I'd left near the kitchen door. My little renegade toe skillfully picked up a shoe strap, and I suddenly flew across the kitchen floor without a parachute, holding the bowl high in the air, hoping it wouldn't break in the inevitable impact. The flying time felt like forever, but I finally landed with a very hard thud on the left side of my chest. Of course, my arms had to follow my body, so the broken bowl flew everywhere. Slaaaap on the tile floor.

When a friend who's staying with me picked me up off the floor, my first reaction was confused disbelief. (I think that's the normal reaction at this stage) Then by the time we got to the Acute Care Center, I actually felt numb and giddy. In fact, the nurses remarked at my sense of humor in a not-so-funny situation. (Maybe mishaps like this affect a person's brain) But when the pain set in, my sense of humor melted into pure agony, and my left rib cage, neck, shoulder and arm were on fire.

Now 3 days later, my plans are shot, I missed my writer's group party, and I've been through anger, self-pity, feeling weak and shaky, and regret at not putting my shoes away. And with 3 medications, the pain is still grueling. So now what do I do? I know resistance makes everything worse, so I guess I have to accept where I am and envision more plans for another day.

The ride is still very bumpy, but I can't say it's boring. You know what? Life is like that. We never know what the next moment will bring. But we choose our reactions and they greatly influence recovery, so it's wise to be ready when the unexpected interrupts our world. I think I'll learn from this present experience and do better next time.

Always have a parachute ready.


Thursday, December 8, 2011

The Gift

I am in the habit of looking not so much to the nature of a gift as to the spirit in which it is offered. Robert Louis Stevenson

Recently I thought back on some of the gifts I received in the past. Some were expensive, some were not, and some cost nothing. But the ones I treasured the most had one thing in common. They were all given from the heart. This is the one ingredient that makes a gift a gift. It's how much love is involved in the giving.

When I was a child living in Detroit, I played outside until the streetlights came on and all the children went inside. There was a man who played in a band downtown, and every evening he caught the bus on my corner. Well, on my 9th birthday he brought me a box of beautiful hair ribbons wrapped in a pretty box. I never knew his name, but I still remember the joy I saw in his face as I opened my gift. I also remember the gifts my own children brought home to me from school--the handprints, the valentines, and the colorful pictures of Santa and the Christmas tree. I still have some of them. Then a few years ago, a friend didn't have money to buy a gift for my birthday, so she cleaned my house for me. What a beautiful gift. I knew she put her heart into it, and she made me happy. When I worked as a Psychotherapist, one of my patients brought me a birdhouse his wife made for me, and another patient gave me a lily he grew in his yard. What wonderful memories.

The greatest gift is a portion of thyself. Ralph Waldo Emerson

These gifts remind me that giving from the heart blesses both the giver and the receiver. I remember each giver's happy expression, and I re-live my own joy in receiving. The value of a gift is in the sharing of heartfelt love, and the gift is a symbol of this feeling between people. Think carefully as you choose a gift, and enjoy the experience of giving and receiving. Remember that when you give someone something with your heart, you're giving a part of yourself. So, are the gift.

Enjoy a happy heart.


Friday, December 2, 2011

What About People?

This is a time of year when many are caught up in holiday activities, and sometimes we focus so much on things that we forget about the people in our world. So I decided to resurrect a message from the past that seems to apply to this time of year.

Today I approached the door to the library, and was pleasantly surprised when a young man moved in front of me and held the door open for me. I remember when nice gestures like this happened often, but I don't see much of it now. I smiled and told him how much I appreciated his kindness. This experience brought to mind how busy we are and how seldom we think of people. Yes, time is valuable, but I wonder if we're missing out on a lot of joy in our rush to get things done.

Most of what we do is necessary, but do we stop long enough to evaluate all those chores? Or are we just caught up in the fast-paced flow, and don't even realize we're in it? Are we really too busy to reach out and share some time with others?

Many years from now I'll remember the young man who opened the door for me, but I doubt I'll remember the department store sale I couldn't miss last week, or which gift I gave to Aunt Mary, or who brought what for the holiday dinner.

Think about it. Time is what you make of it. Slow down and reorganize. When a moment is gone, it's gone. Create time to smile at the store clerk, laugh with a child, hug a friend, pray for the hungry in the world, express your love for the people in your life, and feel the joy of the season. Things are important, but they're temporary. People are forever. Life is for making memories. What kind of memories are you taking with you this year?

Breathe slowly and love a lot.