All forgiveness is a gift to yourself. A Course In Miracles
This is a dynamic year of change. The earth's energy is pushing us to break out of the old and embrace the new--to be different. Our whole life we've accumulated energy from our experiences, some good for us and some not so good. We spend years dealing with the same painful feelings. It's like chewing the same food over and over, and each time we do it, we get heartburn (literally).
Unforgiveness could involve other people, situations, or your own self-reproach. Forgiving doesn't mean that you condone anything. It just means that you're tired of carrying the pain, and you're ready to release it from your life. You can't go back and change anything, but you can heal the scars with forgiveness.
Painful episodes in life happen in 4 stages: action--response--feelings--pain. We may or may not have control over the action, but we're responsible for our responses, and therefore our feelings and our pain. When we forgive and release what's already there, and then learn to take responsibility for our responses in the future, our life changes.
1. First sit quietly, close your eyes, and know that you are always in the arms of your Creator. You have nothing to fear.
2. Bring into your mind the person, situation, or your own self-reproach to be forgiven, and allow painful feelings associated with them to surface. Allow yourself to experience your feelings. Move through them and accept them as part of the healing process.
3. Own your responsibility, without judgment, for your responses, feelings, and pain associated with whatever happened.
4. Speak to the person, situation, or to yourself with a kind heart--as much as you can at the time. Tell them you forgive and you're ready to release all painful feelings toward them. Say, "It is over."
5. Smile as you watch those painful feelings leaving you, rising into the air to be transformed.
Forgiveness may occur quickly, or it may take a while, but in time, diligent efforts will heal the hurt, and you'll be free to be you. Usually forgiving others is easier than forgiving yourself. It's hard to accept our own imperfection. How dare I forgive myself! But remember, you are not the pain. You are not the guilt, regret or any self-reproach. You are your true self.
Wash your hands, shake it off, shout hallelujah. And celebrate Being You.
Now doesn't that feel gooood?