Tuesday, March 17, 2015

What's In Your Life Script? Is It Really You?

Inside us lies every possibility that is available to a sentient being. Every darkness, every light. It is the choices we make that decide who or what we will be. Charles de Lint

We created the life we have. As children, our experiences gave us messages, some positive, some negative, and we incorporated those messages into a belief system. Then we wrote our script as we moved along. And now we live our life according to our script, dictated from our subconscious. We assumed a role, our self-image, and we play it out in every aspect of our life--work, money, relationships, health issues, expectations, our potential, our spiritual life, etc. And we resist changes in ourself and others.

Have you written the script you want, and do you express as your authentic self--that deep, pure essence of who you were created to be? Or is your life defined by false beliefs about you and what your life is "supposed' to be? Well, if you're not living from your authentic self, you can write a new story.

In the midst of our struggle to find out who we are, there are infinite possibilities for beauty, and hope, and wonder, and love. Mandy Hale

Self-awareness is key to change. So begin asking yourself questions to uncover your erroneous beliefs. Explore, become aware, of different aspects of your life, and notice patterns you've created. What do you see in your self-image? What would you change about you? Do you enjoy your work? What about the people in your life and your health issues? What is money to you? Do you expect things to go wrong, or do you expect good outcomes? Do you get angry easily? Are you lonely? What are you afraid of? What do you see, or don't see, as your potential in life? Ask questions about any part of your life that you wonder about.

The spirit part of you inside has always known your authentic self--that part of you that got lost somewhere when you were writing your script with false beliefs. And, with love, it wants to help you find that self. Go within and ask questions. And listen carefully for answers, They will come. And find the power to believe you can find your true self.

If you believe you can, then the universe will open up a world of possibilities and opportunities for you. Melissa Perry Maraja
                                                   Look, Minnie. We get another chance.

Keep a journal, and everyday write down 4 categories: 2 from your old script and 2 for your new script.
Example 1:
1. Observation: I could have gone to college, but I was afraid to go.
2. False belief: I don't have what it takes to make it there.
3. Opposite of false belief: I made good grades in school. I'm as smart as other students.
4. Imagine: Close your eyes and imagine receiving a college diploma and how that feels. Feel the feelings.

Example 2:
1. Observation: I feel like I'll always be poor.
2. False belief: I don't deserve to be prosperous.
3. Opposite of false belief: I'm a good person, and I deserve every blessing, even prosperity.
4. Imagine: Having more than you need in your checking account, how that feels. Feel the feeling.

One technique that has served me well over the years is denials and affirmations. These are powerful, because you're confronting the lies with truth. As you go about your day, and you become aware of one of your false beliefs, use this technique. And do it with firm conviction.
Denial: State that the belief is false, and deny that it has any power over you.
Affirmation: Affirm the truth of the situation, the opposite of the false belief.

Do what Paulo Coelho advises: "Imagine a new story for your life and start living it." Toss the old script, and allow your authentic self to emerge and express who and what you really are. You are beautiful.

I wish you happiness being you.


Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Thoughts On The Inhumane World In Which We Live

The ideal life is in our blood and never will be still. Sad will be the day for any man when he becomes contented with the thoughts he is thinking and the deeds he is doing. Phillip Brooks

I'm not one to get up on a soapbox and preach. And I won't 'preach' here. Just my opinion about the inhumanity I see everyday in a world crying for more humane treatment. There is still warmth and beauty in our world. I see that too. But our world has lost balance, tilted toward a culture grown motivated by a competitive, 'what's in it for me' mindset with an 'us or them' attitude. And the haves are allowed to rule without an ear to hear the have nots.

Today our food, water, and air are being poisoned;even honeybees are being annihilated; we're destroying our beautiful earth; children are hungry; crime is rampant; some think war is the only answer to conflict; almost everyone takes some kind of medication everyday, and drug companies rake in the money; the wealthy get wealthier; we don't smile at strangers anymore; and we put up privacy fences to avoid contact--my back yard is surrounded by neighbor's privacy fences.

Recently I saw a picture of animals being tested, tortured, for ingredients in commercial products we use everyday. That gruesome sight tore at my heart. Oh, they're just animals? No. they're living creatures in a world that has forgotten how precious life is; how precious we all are; every one of us.

If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten we belong to each other. Mother Teresa

In her book, 'The Bond', Lynne McTaggart says that years of research have shown there's a connection between all people so profound it runs through our total structure on a sub-atomic level. Nature designed us to connect--to belong. Living against our nature creates a world of physical, mental and emotional pain--the world in which we live.

Many years ago, the cultural norm was a sense of connection and community with others where all the maladies we suffer today were minimal. Then as industrialization spread, people changed. We forgot we're all cells in the cell of humanity. Now we're so busy doing, we forget to express our beautiful, authentic self, lost somewhere inside, without adequate expression. and we take for granted things like illness, stress, violence, greed, loneliness, etc. We say, 'that's life', and continue this path without question. But are we meant to live this way? And can we change it?

I alone cannot change the world. But I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples. Mother Teresa

Lynne McTaggart offers several steps to restore love, peace, and harmony to our world, to live according to our true nature.
1. Change your vision. Notice differences in people, but with love, accept your connection. You can accept another person without accepting their views.
2. Work with others toward a common goal. Share the problems, pain, and joy.
3. Don't stay isolated from others. Reach out and take another's hand. With intention, be a spiritual activist, and send love to the pain and suffering you see in the world. It will make a difference.
4. Change your life purpose, and rethink the meaning of your life. What kind of life do you want? What are you here to do?

You are total energy, and energy is powerful. Choose to be a part of the whole creation--an expression of love and light energy that can transform the darkness. 'A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Lao Tzu'. Practice awareness, and take each step wisely. And our inhumane world can become one of benevolence for all.

May each of your days be filled with love.


Tuesday, March 3, 2015

How To Let Anger Work For You, Part 2, Taming The Tiger

Anger is a great force. If you control it, it can be transmuted into a power which can move the whole world. William Shenstone

It's yours. That natural human emotion you may sometimes use as a remedy to relieve a sense of fear, frustration, invalidation, loss, whatever hurts; the results of your perceptions about external experiences and internal pain. And you may let your anger loose on someone or some thing. Deep down, you know it usually doesn't solve anything, except maybe give you a false sense of satisfaction and power. And you may even feel worse after each encounter. But you still go there. Yes, it's yours. And perhaps you've actually given it power over you. But you don't have to hang onto it.

During my years of angry outbursts, I too believed that lashing out would stop my pain. But it left me exhausted, and I still hurt inside. But I knew no other way. Then I learned there's another side to this phenomenon. Anger can be useful, if you can see it as a tool for positive change, rather than a remedy that doesn't work. It can help you understand your fears and correct your erroneous beliefs about yourself and others. Yes, it needs to be controlled, but it can help you grow into more of what you want to be.

Inner Work.
1. Begin your search for answers.
a. Write letters to yourself with questions: What am I afraid of? What in me feels threatened? What
in me needs changing?
b. Write down whatever answers you get.
c. Now confront each answer with positive descriptions of yourself, whether you believe it or not. Belief
will come as you practice. Emphasize peace, strength, power, etc.

2. Choose a quiet time each day to close your eyes and recall times when you were angry. Analyze what
you were feeling then. Without judgment, be honest and clear about your feelings. Then surround the anger and your feelings with a bright light of love and say, "Now I choose to release you with love." And watch them float away. If this is difficult, take some deep breaths and begin again. It will get easier.

If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.  Will Rogers

Outer Work.
1. While you're working on inner changes, you need a way to stop anger from taking over in the first place.
When anger suddenly grabs you in the pit of your stomach, that's when you need to breathe deep and say a
 key word like, No, Stop, Think, Whoa, whatever has strong meaning for you and will immediately stop
 you in your tracks. Yes, one word can do it. Stomping your foot helps too. 
2. Now acknowledge your anger and refocus your attention on affirming statements. I don't need to be
 right all the time; I'm fine just like I am; this can be fixed; that other person is just a big bag of wind;
 I have a right to be in control of my actions; etc. Use whatever fits to stop the feeling before it becomes full blown. Now you're on your way to taming the tiger. Work with it until it gives up.

Anger is pure energy, and it may still pop up once in a while. But you can use it to your advantage. If that happens, do something active. I do my best house cleaning when I'm angry. You can turn this enemy into an ally. Allow this energy to increase your self awareness and help you grow in truth.

I wish you understanding and peace in your life.