Monday, May 16, 2016
The Depression Pit And The Road To Recovery: Part 2
When you fall into the pit of depression you may long for someone to reach down and pull you out. But it usually doesn't happen that way. There are degrees of depression. Some people can respond to their own efforts to recover, but sometimes a person is too weak to do the required pushing for that recovery. Then medication may be necessary until they're strong enough to participate in the recovery process. This may be a consideration.
Think about your own situation. In spite of your suffering, you may be strong enough to begin recovery yourself. Either way, support is important, so in the beginning turn to someone close to you who will understand, advise you, and be with you through it. If no support is available, find a good therapist who will be supportive.
Be not afraid of changing slowly; be afraid only of standing still. Chinese Proverb
If you know deep within that you have the inner strength to rise above your pain and realize the peace you long for, then begin your journey to wholeness. Even with fear, in truth you're stronger than you think. And you can create miracles.
"Give sorrow words. The grief that does not speak knits up the o'er wrought heart and bids it break" Shakespeare
1. Accept and Clarify: Accept depression as where you are now on your journey. Owning the problem and being willing to face it and resolve it weakens its power over you. Now put your feelings into words. Clarify what you're dealing with and help yourself understand it. If the cause is external, clarify the problem. If it's internal, ask your Higher Self to reveal what you need to work on.
I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become. C. G. Jung
2. Intention: State your intention to climb up out of that pit, and you intend to get out one way or another. State your goal. Write down what you choose to create in your life...peace, joy, love, etc.
For peace of mind, we need to resign as general manager of the universe. Larry Eisenberg
3. Your Needs: Give yourself permission to be good to you during this process. Meet your commitments, but your main focus now is you. This is your time to heal. Even if you don't feel like it, use props to raise your mood...music, walking outside, exercise, watch a sunrise, eat ice cream, create belly laughs, whatever it takes.
When you feel overwhelmed with your pain, and you feel like crying, ranting, raving, swearing, etc, don't hold it back. Let it out, but allot a certain amount of time for this kind of an outlet. 30 minutes, 1 hour, 2 hours, whatever you decide. Then when the time is up, cut it off, and turn immediately to a planned pleasant activity. Do this as needed, and this need will diminish.
4. Quiet Time: Each day set aside some time to be quiet, and use denials and affirmations. Say aloud, "I deny that this depression has any power over me, and I affirm my ability to rise above and find the freedom and peace I desire." Repeat this with feeling several times each day.
Your inner child is hurting. During your quiet time, talk to your inner child with comfort and love, and reassure him/her that it's okay now to release the pain.
Peace is not something you wish for; it's something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away. John Lennon
5. Help Someone Else: This is one of the most important things you can do to help yourself. Look for ways to help someone else, and give and get hugs, You need them too. Give and accept all the love you can. Love is the greatest healer.
The journey back is not easy, and you may have to start over numerous times. But never give up. The will to life will push you forward and give you the strength you need. You were meant to soar like an eagle. Accept help when it comes, but ultimately you have to flap your own wings. And you can.
I wish you freedom to smile as you soar.