Monday, November 14, 2016
How To Deal With Shock In Your Life
It's just a shock. You go from one day to everything being OK to your life being upside down. Amber Margarejo
We've just come through a stressful presidential election like nothing I've seen in my lifetime. And whether you're happy or sad about the outcome, the final result was a shock not only in our country, but in much of the world. As I observe people's reactions to this situation, I'm reminded of other shocking situations we sometimes encounter in our own personal lives and/or collectively.
Shock over happy outcomes passes quickly. But sudden traumatic situations can affect us physically, mentally, emotionally, and/or spiritually. The degree of shock depends upon each individual's perception of the event and personal situation at the time. What's mild to one person can be serious to another. When we know what's coming, our body begins preparing for it. If not, the sudden element itself can render the mind helpless to think clearly. It shakes our sense of reality of who we are, how we live our life, our expectations, our perception of truth, etc. and we must go through a series of adjustments to healing.
Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway. John Wayne
I remember a personal shock I experienced a few years ago. During the many years I worked, I faithfully invested into my retirement fund. But 3 years into retirement, I suddenly learned that due to neglect by the person handling my account, I'd lost my retirement fund. It was gone. Nothing to show for all those years. At first it was difficult to believe the reality of the situation. I was in shock, and felt devastated, scared and helpless. But somehow prayer sustained me and I survived...wiser than before.
Another time I experienced a shock felt by the whole world. I still remember it vividly. I was a child listening to the radio with my mother and brothers when suddenly the program was interrupted with news that Japanese planes had bombed our ships in Pearl Harbor. My mother's first instinct was to run, and she quickly hurried us up the street to my aunt's house. I remember hysterical neighbors pouring out of their houses, grouping together in the street, fearful about what might happen next. I didn't fully understand what was happening, but I felt that emotional shock.
Accept, then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Eckhart Tolle
A personal shock can put your body in an almost nonfunctional mode with questions like, "Why did this happen? What am I going to do now? What will happen to me?" You may feel that life has thrown you more than you can handle, and there's no place to run. So your first survival mode is to stop, breathe deep, quiet your mind, and accept where you are without resistance. And if prayer is part of your life, pray for peace and guidance.
Allow yourself to calm down as much as possible, and for a while concentrate only on yourself. Cling to what's real and valuable in your life, and list what you have that's safe and dependable. What does your well-being depend on, and do you have that? If not, how can you create it? Be kind to you, and seek support from people in your life who will listen to you and offer understanding and compassion.
You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice. Bob Marley
As your mind clears, take time to digest what's happened. Ask yourself how might the new situation change your life, or does it? Can you mend what's broken, or do you have to let go? Does the situation need your immediate attention, or is it out of your control? And establish what's yours to do, or not do. Then move forward from there.
If the shocking situation is more on a collective level, seek out others and share your thoughts and feelings. Whatever the cause, shock needs to be dealt with in order to heal and move on. Know that you have what it takes to accomplish this. And you will.
I wish you peaceful times ahead.