The spirit is the true self, not the physical figure which can be pointed out by your finger. Cicero
We generally think of ourselves as having one identity and that personality and individuality are the same entity. But they are quite different. Personality is our ego self, the reality we created with false beliefs while growing up. This external changeable part of us is influenced by the environment, and we cultivate personality by listening to voices outside of ourselves. Individuality is the inner or real self that never changes its identity, and it expresses spiritual qualities. We cultivate our individuality by listening to the still small voice inside and following it. Therefore personality is the sum total of all your changing opinions about yourself. And individuality is your Self.
Ideally our 2 parts, the ego self and true self, will function together in harmony and peace, and the ego will express in our material world who we truly are. But many people believe their personality is who they are, and this is who they identify with. Even those who know better sometimes have difficulty living from their true self. But if we want to live authentically, we must gradually transform our reality. This transformation is our spiritual journey back to our spiritual source.
What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself. Abraham H. Maslow
Transformation to decrease negativity in your life and develop more positive and fulfilling experiences...to live from your true self...will take increased awareness and understanding of both your personality and your individuality. You experience both selves, but you must pay attention and become aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behavior patterns in order to distinguish one self from the other.
Step back and become the observer. At first, just practice observing and learn to recognize the impatient, demanding voice of your ego and the patient, loving voice of your true self. Question...how are they different, how do they feel, what is each saying to me with words, feelings, and actions, what does each want for me? Etc. Get to know them as you've never known them before. And as you become familiar with each one, learn to identify them with, "This is ego, or this is me, my true self." With this awareness, you can learn ways to decrease expression of your ego personality and increase expression of your true self individuality. When you see the bigger picture, you see with the eyes of the soul.
Ego is just like dust in the eyes. Without clearing the dust, you can't see anything clearly. So clear the ego and see the world. Unknown
Even with all its troublesome ways, the ego self is not our enemy. It's like a misguided child who needs guidance and healing to think and behave in ways to benefit the whole person. Ego feels fearful and insecure, and uses deception and control to survive. So reassure it you're not trying to eliminate it, but to understand and incorporate its valuable traits into your life in positive ways. Your ego self is strong and resourceful, and you can teach it to listen to the voice of truth and lead you in choices that redirect your life in positive ways instead of disruptive ways of the past.
Every experience of love, bliss, belonging, inspiration and insight provides a stepping stone back to your true self. Deepak Chopra
The ego wants control and will resist change, but it can be tamed and integrated as a positive part of the whole person. And once you learn to identify the ego state as it arises, you have the power to allow your true self to express in its place. As you go through each day dealing with your ego self, practice expressing more of your true self's divine qualities of love, kindness, understanding, and compassion. As these qualities increase, negative ego will lose its need to control, and will decrease. And positive changes will come.
Transformation is a lifetime endeavor, but as we begin to know ourselves as souls, we gradually release attachment to our false identity, and we embrace our wholeness. As our ego self and true self function together in harmony, our life will have deeper meaning and will reflect the love and peace we long for.
I wish you happiness as You.